The Drama Triangle

What type most associates with you?

• Quiet, laid back, Always listens, very rarely talks

• Loud, bubbly, always talking and very rarely listening

• Bits of both, depending the company

• None of these

Within family relationships, which most describes you?

• A leader, The one with the answers, tells others how to do things

• A follower, takes on board others opinions and tries to please

• Niether, I cant change what is,

• Bits of all

If an argument occurred between 2 of your friends, what would best describe how you deal with it.

• Take sides, offer your strong opinions to support either side

• Jump in a try to cool down the argument,

• Walk away, avoid conflict at all costs

• Stay quiet and observe, enjoy a bit of drama, but don't get involved

You have a friend with a problem, how do you deal with it?

• Save them, give them opinions and solutions, to make them feel better

• Listen, but do not offer any input at all,

• listen, weigh up either side but allow your friend to come to their own solution

• None, I dont get involve, I have enough to worry about

Your child gets a bad school report, you

• Tel them off, you are disappointed, there's no excuse

• Listen to what's going on, tell them you expect better and work out a way forward

• Don't approach it, avoid hurting their feelings and conflict

• Speak to the teacher behind their back

A customer in a supermarket gets angry with you for standing in front of them at a till, you was unaware you did it, you

• Shout back angrily

• Calmly apologise and explain you didn't know

• Walk away, avoid

• Let them in front of you and pay for their shopping

You have had a busy day, your partner comes home and is upset that the tea isnt ready, you

• Angrily explain the contents of your day, it is tough the tea isn't ready

• Apologise profusely, and frantically try to get tea done as fast as possible

• Calmly explain that your partner is quite capable and can prepare their own tea

• Walk out, avoid

Your neighbour complains that your parcels keep getting delivered there, you

• Constantly order more

• apologise and explain your working lots of hours and are never home

• Send them a bunch of flowers and promise never to send another parcel there

• Tell them how busy you are and you cant possibly be home to collect all of them, they should be more helpful

You overhear two friends talking about another friend, you

• Rush to tell the friend about the conversation, enjoy the drama

• listen to the conversation then interrupt telling them they shouldn't do that

• Listen, stay quiet, observe and learn from this

• Leave quick, you don't want to hear it or be involved.

Your boss criticizes they way you do jobs constantly, you

• Lose your temper and bite back telling them what they are

• Ask for a meeting in private and explain how this makes you feel

• Leave the job, no warning, do not go back

• Ignore it, you dont listen to anyone anyway, you will just carry on as you are