Understanding Repair in Relationships

The video discusses the importance of repair in relationships, particularly parent-child ones. It shares a personal story to illustrate the concept and explains how repair differs from a simple apology. The speaker emphasizes the impact of repair on reducing self-blame in children and improving adult relationships. Steps for effective repair are outlined, along with examples of what not to do. The video concludes by reassuring viewers that it's never too late to repair relationships.

What is the main focus of the speaker's personal story?

• A conflict with a colleague

• A disagreement with a friend

• A conflict with her son

• A misunderstanding with a neighbor

What is the speaker's profession?

• Clinical psychologist

• Lawyer

• Teacher

• Engineer

How does the speaker differentiate repair from an apology?

• Repair involves shutting down the conversation

• Repair is about ignoring the issue

• Repair opens up the conversation

• Repair is about moving on quickly

What is a potential consequence of unresolved conflicts in children?

• Development of self-blame

• Improved communication skills

• Greater independence

• Increased self-confidence

What does the speaker say about the impact of repair on memory?

• Repair erases the original event

• Repair has no effect on memory

• Repair changes the story of the event

• Repair makes the event more painful

What is the first step in the process of effective repair?

• Apologize immediately

• Repair with the child

• Ignore the issue

• Repair with yourself

What should you avoid doing when attempting to repair with a child?

• Offering a solution

• Expressing understanding

• Taking responsibility for your actions

• Blaming the child for your reaction

What does the speaker suggest is a benefit of repairing with a child?

• The child will never make mistakes

• The child will learn to take responsibility

• The child will avoid all conflicts

• The child will become more independent

What is a key element to include when repairing with a child?

• Ignore the issue

• Avoid discussing the incident

• State what you would do differently next time

• Blame the child

What is the speaker's main message about the timing of repair?

• Repair should be done immediately

• Repair is only effective in childhood

• It is often too late to repair

• It is never too late to repair