Boundaries and Consent

True or False:

Consent is the SAME THING as permission.

• True! They both mean the exact same thing.

• False! Consent requires ALL people to agree. Permission requires approval from ONE person.

What is consent?

• Consent is when ONE person agrees to something.

• Consent is when NO ONE agrees to something.

• Consent is when ALL people involved agree to something.

• Consent is the same as giving permission.

You want to borrow a shirt from your friend. What could you say that would be appropriate?

• "Hey, give me your shirt!"

• "Yo bro, cool shirt, give it to me!"

• "Hey, I was wondering if it was okay if I used your shirt?"

Someone shakes their head "No"

Is this a verbal or nonverbal way of saying "No"

• Verbal

• Nonverbal

Someone says "No"

Are they giving their consent?

• Yes they are giving their consent.

• N o, they are saying very clearly they don't want to.

True or False:

You don't need to say yes to doing something because someone else wants you to.

• True! You never need to say yes to something you don't want to!

• False! If you were a true friend you would just say yes.

1 person agrees to a hug. 1 person does not agree to a hug. Has consent been given?

• Yes, as long as one person says yes then consent is given.

• No, BOTH people need to agree to a hug.

You and your friend are sitting outside at the park. All of a sudden it gets TOO hot and you are uncomfortable. You now want to go home. What could you say to your friend?

• "You had such a dumb idea and I wish I never listened to you. I'm going home!"

• "It's too hot for me and I would like to go home."

Someone says "Yes, I would love a hug!"

Is this verbal or nonverbal?

• It is verbal. They are using their words to say "Yes"!

• It is nonverbal. Just because they said it doesn't mean it's verbal.

Someone says "yes". Are they consenting?

• Yes. They have clearly said they want to.

• No. Just because they said yes doesn't mean they meant yes.