3.8 Responding to Conflict

3.8 Responding to Conflict

by School Connect

​Bell Ringer

​Choose the response you would most likely use in each of the following situations:

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​Keep track of your answers:

​How many A's.....

​ .....B's, C's, D's and E's

Poll

A friend plays practical jokes that usually embarrass you

• A. You talk about humor with your friend and where you each draw the line

• B. You strike back with a much-worse practical joke sure to embarrass your friend

• C. You talk to your friend who agrees to “cut back” on practical jokes and you agree to let him/her know when it bothers you

• D. You realize your friend has a different sense of humor than you, and let it go this time.

• E. You avoid the person and won’t say why you are annoyed.

Poll

The principal just instituted a new rule on public displays of affection (PDA) that forbids students to touch each other at school. You think this is an unfair, terrible rule.

• A. You and some friends ask to talk with the principal and collaborate on a new rule

• B. You get signatures on a student petition decrying the rule and deliver it to the principa

• C. You draw up a compromise rule that allows touching that is not “affectionate” (e.g., comforting a friend, high fiving, tapping to get someone’s attention).

• D. You go along with the rule and put it down when talking to other students.

• E. You and your friends agree not to follow the rule but keep an eye out for teachers and administrators who might bust you.

Poll

A friend has borrowed money from you several times and never paid you back

• A. You talk about the problem and work out a way for your friend to pay you back.

• B. You pressure your friend every day and say you won’t hang out again until you are paid back

• C. You agree that your friend can do something for you as a way of paying you back.

• D. You say you can’t loan your friend any more money but don’t ask for the money back.

• E. You stop hanging out with your friend.

Poll

Your family is trying to decide where to go for a vacation. Your sister loves the beach and is trying hard to convince everyone to go there. You think it might be nice to try something totally new.

• A. You talk about the options as a family to find out what members are most excited about.

• B. You try to get other family members on your side and overrule your sister.

• C. You suggest the family go to the beach part of the time and do something new along the way

• D. You go to the beach since it’s so important to your sister, but you expect something in return.

• EYou refuse to talk about it because you hate conflict.

Poll

You and your best friend have a blow-up over whether to go to a party that might get busted.

• A. You suggest you both talk about what happened and come up with a solution together.

• B. You continue to argue your side and refuse to give in.

• C. You suggest a compromise activity

• D. You say you’ll go but probably won’t stay long.

• E. You do something else and wait for things to blow over

Open Ended

Are there any positives to a competitive response style?

Are there any negatives?

Open Ended

Are there any positives to a accomodating response style?

Are there any negatives?

Open Ended

Are there any positives to a avoidant response style?

Are there any negatives?

Open Ended

Are there any positives to a compromising response style?

Are there any negatives?

Open Ended

Are there any positives to a collaborative response style?

Are there any negatives?

Poll

What answer did you choose the most in the Bell Ringer?

• Mostly A's (Collaborative)

• Mostly B's (Competitive)

• Mostly C's (Compromising)

• Mostly D's (Accommodating)

• Mostly E's

  (Avoidant)

Open Ended

Think about if, when, and what you would like to change regarding your conflict response style.