DBT Interpersonal Effectiveness Quiz

What does the acronym DEAR MAN stand for?

• Describe, Express, Assert, Reinforce, stay Mindful, Appear confident, Negotiate

• Discuss, Explain, Argue, Reject, Manipulate, Avoid, Negotiate

• Declare, Examine, Assess, Reject, Modify, Adapt, Negotiate

• Determine, Evaluate, Analyze, Respond, Manage, Adapt, Negotiate

What is the purpose of the 'Describe' step in DEAR MAN?

• To state only facts about the situation without judgments

• To express how you are feeling about the situation

• To reinforce that there will be a positive outcome of your request

• To assert yourself by asking for what you want or need

What is the importance of 'Appearing Confident' in the DEAR MAN process?

• To make eye contact and state your point confidently without conceding

• To repeat yourself calmly and evenly if the person isn’t listening to you

• To be flexible and willing to give in order to get

• To focus on making your point without letting the other person draw you off track

What should you do if the discussion becomes toxic during a DEAR MAN conversation?

• Be confident but also be flexible and willing to give in order to get

• Ignore their attacks and focus on making your point without letting the other person draw you off track

• Deliver the reward after the fact if there is one

• Do a DEAR MAN within the original DEAR MAN to address the new situation

What is the purpose of 'Reinforcing' in the DEAR MAN process?

• To be mindful of your goal and not let yourself get distracted or swayed by the conversation

• To make eye contact and state your point confidently without conceding

• To reinforce that there will be a positive outcome of your request or a negative outcome if you’re saying no

• To offer alternative solutions in order to get closer to what you want

What is the importance of 'Staying Mindful' in the DEAR MAN process?

• To reinforce that there will be a positive outcome of your request or a negative outcome if you’re saying no

• To offer alternative solutions in order to get closer to what you want

• To make eye contact and state your point confidently without conceding

• To focus on making your point without letting the other person draw you off track

What should you do if the other person becomes hostile during a DEAR MAN conversation?

• Deliver the reward after the fact if there is one

• Use a confident tone and sure body language

• Be confident but also be flexible and willing to give in order to get

• Ignore their attacks and focus on making your point without letting the other person draw you off track

What is the purpose of 'Expressing' in the DEAR MAN process?

• To reinforce that there will be a positive outcome of your request or a negative outcome if you’re saying no

• To be clear and direct so there’s no room for misinterpretation

• To state only facts about the situation without judgments

• To avoid blame by using 'I' statements and tell the other person openly and honestly how you feel

What should you do if the person isn’t listening to you during a DEAR MAN conversation?

• Use a confident tone and sure body language

• Be a broken record and repeat yourself calmly and evenly

• Be confident but also be flexible and willing to give in order to get

• Deliver the reward after the fact if there is one

What is the importance of 'Negotiating' in the DEAR MAN process?

• Be confident but also be flexible and be willing to give in order to get

• To offer alternative solutions in order to get closer to what you want

• To make eye contact and state your point confidently without conceding

• To reinforce that there will be a positive outcome of your request or a negative outcome if you’re saying no